Caregiver of a Strong Man

So here we are 3 years later; My quote from 3 years ago still stands. ” Let’s face it men are as strong as the material glass is made of but not as transparent.” –Donna Alford.
We are in the final stages of this lung disease called COPD and no two days are the same. One day he is the most stubborn piece of material God ever placed on this earth and another day I can see right through him. The disease runs the daily schedule and decides if I the caregiver can go out for a while or stay isolated and for how many days.

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July 2016

I have thought about creating a page about this adventure of being a caregiver to one of the strongest men I know ( my husband) for a while. Then today’s daily post word was Glass.

Funny how that strikes me as the perfect intro to this page. Let’s face it men are as strong as the material glass is made of but not as transparent. They are quiet and tough on the outside, but on the inside, it is a different story.

If you have real intimacy in your relationship you can ask the deep questions. Intimacy is not only sex, but it is also getting to know that real person that lies next to you each night. I revisited this part of our lives while he spent a week in the hospital. Sharing a king size bed seems very lonely when an illness is this serious.

Everyone I have met in our New Community thinks it is amazing we have lasted thirty -one year after marrying so young. There are times I am amazed also, dealing with five sisters-in-law has not always been the easiest thing in the world and with his illness slowly progressing it will be a challenge to prove myself, although my aunt says do not attempt to prove yourself to Anyone other than yourself. So that is the Goal, to care for a Strong Man as strong as Glass that could be shattered at any time by a chronic lung condition.



Glass is a non-crystalline amorphous solid that is often transparent and has widespread practical, technological, and decorative usage in, for example, window panes, tableware, and optoelectronics. Scientifically, the term “glass” is often defined in a broader sense, encompassing every solid that possesses a non-crystalline structure at the atomic scale and that exhibits a glass transition when heated towards the liquid state. · Text under CC-BY-SA license



12 comments on “Caregiver of a Strong Man”

  1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I have recently been caring for my wife the last few months. One thing I have found find very comforting and energizing in the situation, is meeting and talking with my friends = “me time”. Plus, I have started a blog just like you to connect with other like-minded souls in the world. Warmest wishes to you from sunny Australia, Donna!

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