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Thoughts on generations: 3 Widow’s during my Life Time

 

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Although the above picture is not this Midlife Blogger, I was a very young bride and then mother.  Through out my life I have known several widows. Some related and some not related. 

Each have left lasting memories and lessons in my mind. Today I will share thoughts on 3 of the Widow’s during my life time.

  1. The first Widow was not related by blood, but was a dear church family member and a women that each of us women admired. Before she became a widow, she started a church in Belarus. She kept in contact monthly with her missonaries and updated our church every quarter.  After her spouse passed away and she began to live her life as a widow, she traveled to see the church she helped get started. She enjoys this traveling and she enjoys a life lead by God. The lesson learned was to let God lead the way and life will not change unless you help change it.
  2. The second Widow I will speak to you about is my grandmother.   (My father’s mother). That was a remarkable woman, although I did not know her well as a little girl; I spent time as an adult with this woman and learned and watched closely. She laid her own father to rest when I was a young bride and mother. Then she laid her husband to rest a few years later. She did not drive, but she enjoyed life. Everyone took out as often as possible or we would show up at her door and be greeted with a smile. The bowl of candy on the table was never empty and tea time with my grandmother was always full of wisdom. Before my grandmother passed away five years ago, she laid to rest another man. My father was the first child that she said goodbye to in her life time. The lesson learned is that God takes home many people before you sometimes, keep your faith and never take life for granted.
  3. By now you are sitting there knowing that the third widow is my mother. She was a widow for 12 years. Although she was disabled ( Mom’s still here!She was an intelligent woman. Enjoyed life and she did not drive either but we took her out and we enjoyed every day with her until  (Her Journey Is Complete). She was one remarkable women. The life time lesson learned here is that whatever trials God brings into your life, your faith and survival skills will get you through each day.

 

As I sip my tea while leaning back in this desk chair, I watched my spouse today who has worsened in the past 3 years. I think about what the season of widowhood has instore for myself? What sorts of journies await? What sorts of people will cross my path? Will I stay in Missouri or begin a brand new life somewhere else?

When God decides on the day to take my spouse home, he will then have both of my parents and my spouse of 34 years. Stay tuned for new seasons of adventure. 

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  1. Your blog is very nice and it comes from the heart! Which is important as a blogger, write what comes from the heart, whether it be crafts, everyday life or travels. Sounds like you have found your niche. Keep up the good work
    Maria

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  2. Great words of wisdom. Sometimes it’s hard to let go and let God but it’s the right thing to do. My grandmother was a widow the entire time I knew her. She was an amazing person full of life. A great cook and always smiling. I miss her dearly. My mother passed young so it was my father who was left behind. I try to be grateful for all that I have in my life but sometimes I forget. Thanks for the reminder.

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    • Thank you for visiting my blog 😊 You are welcome for the reminder.
      My mom’s last couple years were spent in nursing home and I watched men and women light up just for someone to say, hi how are you doing today?

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  3. This is very open. You are so strong. But then again, we have to be sometimes. I am sorry you are going through this. But I am happy that you have this outlet to help you think yourself through it while purging your thoughts through sharing with feelings with others. Thank you for sharing.

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  4. Hi Donna, my mother became a widow when she was only in her 40’s (my father died when I was 15) and the things that she taught me will last my whole life. I can’t imagine the weight of knowing that my husband is almost there. How terrible. I can’t imagine the pain that you live with day after day. I’m so sorry.

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    • Hi Reena, thanks so much for visiting my blog. We almost lost my husband to double pneumonia in 2016. Now as you said knowing it’s coming causes lot of thought. I check budget twice a month and I have made sure All documents are in place.

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  5. A lovely read in a thought provoking way.
    Mum was a widow for 22 years and joined my father in January 2018. My sister is a widow, losing her husband of 34 years in 2010. She has a partner at the moment who was there for her when Mum died. My FIL died in 2004, they had been married 60 years and my MIL preferred life on her own.

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