Although the above picture is not this Midlife Blogger, I was a very young bride and then mother. Through out my life I have known several widows. Some related and some not related.
Each have left lasting memories and lessons in my mind. Today I will share thoughts on 3 of the Widow’s during my life time.
- The first Widow was not related by blood, but was a dear church family member and a women that each of us women admired. Before she became a widow, she started a church in Belarus. She kept in contact monthly with her missonaries and updated our church every quarter. After her spouse passed away and she began to live her life as a widow, she traveled to see the church she helped get started. She enjoys this traveling and she enjoys a life lead by God. The lesson learned was to let God lead the way and life will not change unless you help change it.
- The second Widow I will speak to you about is my grandmother. (My father’s mother). That was a remarkable woman, although I did not know her well as a little girl; I spent time as an adult with this woman and learned and watched closely. She laid her own father to rest when I was a young bride and mother. Then she laid her husband to rest a few years later. She did not drive, but she enjoyed life. Everyone took out as often as possible or we would show up at her door and be greeted with a smile. The bowl of candy on the table was never empty and tea time with my grandmother was always full of wisdom. Before my grandmother passed away five years ago, she laid to rest another man. My father was the first child that she said goodbye to in her life time. The lesson learned is that God takes home many people before you sometimes, keep your faith and never take life for granted.
- By now you are sitting there knowing that the third widow is my mother. She was a widow for 12 years. Although she was disabled ( Mom’s still here!) She was an intelligent woman. Enjoyed life and she did not drive either but we took her out and we enjoyed every day with her until (Her Journey Is Complete). She was one remarkable women. The life time lesson learned here is that whatever trials God brings into your life, your faith and survival skills will get you through each day.
As I sip my tea while leaning back in this desk chair, I watched my spouse today who has worsened in the past 3 years. I think about what the season of widowhood has instore for myself? What sorts of journies await? What sorts of people will cross my path? Will I stay in Missouri or begin a brand new life somewhere else?
When God decides on the day to take my spouse home, he will then have both of my parents and my spouse of 34 years. Stay tuned for new seasons of adventure.