Life Adventures: annoy the fire out of this caregiver

 

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Summer 2016

 

Midlife is a strange age to approach. You realize just the sort of things that can annoy the fire out of you. First of all, I love to fish and be outdoors. Winter keeps us stuck indoors. Sure there are lots of chores to do and foods to cook but you are still stuck inside for days or weeks. Annoying to say the least. 

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Secondly, it is being so young and having a Spouse that is sick. Although I never regret any moment of being a caregiver, I do tend at times to get annoyed that there is a man in my condo 24/7 but I mostly do everything alone. There are no adult nights out, just me seeing a movie at the theater and returning to home. No trips down south just to tell the world goodbye for a couple nights. Takes so much to load the vehicles up these days.

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Third things that seem to annoy me more and more at this age is not being able to be still and meditate as when I was younger. There once was a time I could send the family on their way out into the world and sip my tea and Be Still. Life just does not seem to have that door open lately. If you do care given for a spouse, especially a difficult type of patient your me time becomes very valuable to you even if it is just to watch a movie uninterrupted.   
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Last but certainly very important is difficult people. They show up in Friends, Family, and other parts of a life. I really do thank God for showing me how not to act through some of these types of people. I would not want someone to be hurt or feel hurt the way difficult people have made me feel. 

Let us review:

  1. Being an avid outdoor fan; it annoys me that winter keeps us stuck inside
  2. Entering my 50’s as a caregiver to the spouse instead of enjoying retirement annoys me
  3.  Not always having me time annoys me and not being allowed to express those feelings
  4. Difficult people> I would not want someone to be hurt or feel hurt the way difficult people have made me feel. 

 

 

 

 

via Daily Prompt: Realize

18 thoughts on “Life Adventures: annoy the fire out of this caregiver

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  2. I don’t know where I am to be honest…… at 62 I’m still an under training state pensioner, my get up and go has hiked off for a while (bad cold that lingered for weeks really took it out of us), and the dog has now hurt herself somehow so we are keeping a close eye and keeping her quiet indoors so no long walks for a while.
    I am grateful though to be mobile, and my health is pretty good all things considered.
    I do like your quote about difficult people……… most are family, so we have little contact.

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  3. I especially like: I have learned from difficult people in my life…how not to behave. I am just like you in that regard. And I like the silence of the day as much as the silence of the night. I am a very gregarious woman but find I have no time for people that do not make my heart sing. Period. It is very refreshing. Thank you for your post.

    Warmly, Honey

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    • You are so welcome. I too am a very gregarious woman, guess that is why I enjoyed being a waitress in my younger days. Now during Midlife if as you said a person does not make my heart sing, I rarely get sad if they walk away.

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